It’s completely amazing to me how fast babies grow, but even more how much their relationships grow as they get older.
At 10 months my little angel babies truly developed a loving relationship. Now I know I stated in earlier months they became aware of one another and developed a relationship, but now I have noticed a true loving friendship has blossomed. They make each other laugh, they imitate the sounds I make to one another, play peek-a-boo, and they give each other kisses.
As a mom you’re so use to being the one to give love but when it’s reciprocated it feels truly remarkable. I absolutely LOVE it when we’re playing on the floor and they crawl up to me and give me kisses. I just LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT! ! ! Not just the wet and sloppy kisses but the ones that you can see the love resonating from every time they kiss your cheek. The way their eyes engage with yours as to say “Mommy I love you”.
You can also see the loving relationship with other family members or caregivers that they see often grow as well. Now when my husband comes in the house from work, they listen for his footsteps and crawl to the door the moment they hear his keys. When grandma comes over, affectionately known as “MeMe”, my daughter crawls to her and lifts her hands to be picked up. Just months earlier I was the only one either of them wanted and now to watch their love grow for others truly fills my heart with joy.
I believe you have to teach love for them to know love. It’s not done over night, but when you see the love begin to bloom you can be sure your doing something right.
Now I already know your saying to yourself, “I barely have enough time to pee, let alone romance.” As accurate as this thought may be in early months, it is still very important to maintain the relationship with your honey as you did prior to becoming a “supermom.” Though you may not go out as often, or “romance” as frequently as before the babies, it’s still important to work that back into your lives. You would be surprised what a little “one on one” time can do to boost your energy and change your attitude for the better.
In early months, spending time together for us meant watching t.v while I nursed the babies to sleep. If we were lucky, my husband and I also got the opportunity to eat together:-). Once the babies were about 3 months, we went on actual dates and even met up with friends for the evening (Thank God for grandma’s). At 10 months, we are FINALLY able to get back to our normal routine now that the babies have a set bedtime. Just like I cherish all the moments I spend with my children, I cherish even more the time I spend with my husband because he gave me the greatest gift of all; becoming a mommy.
Never forget your men supermoms. They need love and attention the same way your children need it. Love them as you want to be loved and everyday as the love for your children grow, so will the bond between you and your husband.