Having twins can definitely be time consuming, so much so that it may seem as though you have no time to spend with your older children. Well I say “Make time”. It can be hard for your older children, depending on their age, to understand how much your new little joys are dependent upon you. My son was 6 when my twins were born and was surprisingly understanding of my time once I explained to him what I needed to do for them on a daily basis. As understanding as he was, my first love still had his moments when he would become quite discouraged when I couldn’t play at a moments notice, or when he had to quietly play with his toys because I was putting the babies to sleep.
As patient as my little boy was with me, I still wanted him to know that he was not forgotten and still held a VERY special place in mommy’s heart. Prior to the babies birth it had been just the three of us, so we decided to pick him up early one day from school and treat him to lunch at his favorite pizza place and a movie. Needless to say, he LOVED it and was appreciative of the time we spent with him.
On the weekend when dinner and a movie weren’t an option we have what we call “sleep overs”. During our “sleep over” we spread covers on the floor in the front room, watch t.v, eat snacks, and laugh and play until we fall to sleep. My son LOVES this and I love the quality time I get to spend just him and I. Seeing him smile brightens my day, so knowing how special our “sleep overs” are to him is quite rewarding.
Whatever you do, make time for your older children. Let them know how special they are to you and that no matter how many more children you have, their place in your heart will only and forever belong to them.
Being a mom can have its moments when you just need a breather, especially when dealing with little babies. Just like any person, babies have mood swings as well and your the lucky one who gets to deal with their emotional roller coasters while still dealing with your own. It wouldn’t be so bad if your little angels could express themselves with words, but until then crying is their main form of communication.
So what to do on those days when you wish you could just run and hide? Take a breath and remind yourself that this wont last always. I know it sounds easier said than done but BELIEVE me it works! When my babies bombard me with the trail of tears I just look at their precious little wet faces and remind myself how lucky I am because not everyone is fortunate to have children but God saw fit to give me two. Once that reality hits me, I change my attitude, pick up my little loves and focus on making them smile and laugh. Positivity attracts positivity and your little ones can sense it.
But what happens on those days when your optimistic thoughts aren’t enough to get you by? Take a break. This is when dad, grandparents and friends come in handy. Drop the babies off or have someone come over and take a few hours for you. For me a nice nap can sometimes do the trick. If no one is available, place the babies in a safe place, such as their crib, and take a few moments to relax. Its completely natural to feel this way SOMETIMES, but if these feelings persist don’t be ashamed consult your physician. Woman are hormonal by nature and sometimes your problem could be physiological.
Regardless of the issue, just know that this too shall pass and sooner than later this will be nothing but a distant memory.
Yes it is OK to purchase items for just one baby at a time. With a girl and a boy, there are times when stores have everything for my daughter and nothing for my son and vice versa. Don’t feel bad purchasing for just one baby, otherwise you may end up regretting your purchase. Believe me you’ll feel good for it later, as will your pockets.
Who doesn’t enjoy shopping for babies especially when they are yours. Two of everything though can become a burden on your pockets so I say SALES SALES SALES ladies! I have always been a thrifty shopper and enjoy saving money. Enroll in the email list for your favorite stores. They send out coupons regularly. If they haven’t sent out any, I suggest retailmenot.com which also comes as a phone application. Don’t go shop without it. The best sales are normally around any holidays. Stores celebrate any reason to get customers into their store or online. Seasonal sales are the BEST. August has great mark downs for summer wear and the most to choose from. Mark downs do lower in September and October but normally the good stuff is already gone. For winter gear the best time to shop is January to February. Sometime within this time frame stores have the greatest mark downs. When your buying two of everything saving money is crucial.
If you’re an experienced mom, you know about keeping your finger nails low. This is especially important when handling two infants at once. With longer nails it is almost inevitable that you may scratch your little ones accidentally. Maintaining a low cut manicure can also prevent the spreading of germs since dirt can easily become trapped under your nails. Being that your fingers do so much for your babies mainly serving as your babies number one chew toy, you want to keep your fingers as clean as possible which also mean foregoing nail polish for awhile. You don’t want your nail polish to accidentally chip in their mouths so keep the polish just on your toes for now. When they get all their little teeth and their oral fixation has ceased, a nice mani-pedi would be a great gift from your husband to help bring back your inner diva 🙂