Having twins can definitely be time consuming, so much so that it may seem as though you have no time to spend with your older children. Well I say “Make time”. It can be hard for your older children, depending on their age, to understand how much your new little joys are dependent upon you. My son was 6 when my twins were born and was surprisingly understanding of my time once I explained to him what I needed to do for them on a daily basis. As understanding as he was, my first love still had his moments when he would become quite discouraged when I couldn’t play at a moments notice, or when he had to quietly play with his toys because I was putting the babies to sleep.
As patient as my little boy was with me, I still wanted him to know that he was not forgotten and still held a VERY special place in mommy’s heart. Prior to the babies birth it had been just the three of us, so we decided to pick him up early one day from school and treat him to lunch at his favorite pizza place and a movie. Needless to say, he LOVED it and was appreciative of the time we spent with him.
On the weekend when dinner and a movie weren’t an option we have what we call “sleep overs”. During our “sleep over” we spread covers on the floor in the front room, watch t.v, eat snacks, and laugh and play until we fall to sleep. My son LOVES this and I love the quality time I get to spend just him and I. Seeing him smile brightens my day, so knowing how special our “sleep overs” are to him is quite rewarding.
Whatever you do, make time for your older children. Let them know how special they are to you and that no matter how many more children you have, their place in your heart will only and forever belong to them.